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I have brought up the crucial roles of mothers, the need to convert our homes into book havens and also to ensure that our children rely less on technology so as to develop their attention span, and of ours too! Here are the remaining 3 tips:

4) Fathers must tell inspiring stories to their children. Stories about their struggles, about failures and successes, the people that matter most in life and more importantly, funny episodes. These narratives, if told in romantic cum humorous ways, would develop attentiveness in children. They will learn the Art of Listening while being able to internalize some useful lessons. Added to this is the fact that such narratives told to us by our fathers tend to develop a sense of confidence in us and also closeness to the very people who tell us these stories. So it is a combo deal we are talking about here. Provide good narratives to develop attention span of our kids and in the process develop love with and in them.

5) Sports! Engage in sports with your kids, climbing together, running, soccer, hockey, table tennis and so forth. Sports help children to develop strength, will and focus and to learn how to concentrate when given tasks. In soccer for example, each player is required to know their roles and also to know certain skills that would enable the team to win or to pass, stop and handle the ball well enough to make the whole experience enjoyable for all players involved. Studies have shown that most people who are ultra-focussed in sports and who work hard to develop skills and techniques tend to be focussed in life as well. So sweat it out with the kids and make them attentive to the games you play with them.

6) Last of all, be consistent and persistent. Developing a child’s attention span requires stamina. It is not a hundred metre race where you give the kid what he/she needs in one day and then forget all about it in another. To develop attentive children, we parents must be attentive to the tips that I have given above.

All the best!

We live in an Age of Information Explosion and Multi-tasking, a time in history that has somewhat affected our Children’s Attention Span. Here are some tips that I gained from reading books on Focussed-Learning to develop attentive children:

1) Mothers have to spend quality time with their children to develop a listening culture. Simple conversations, playing word games etc would help in this regard. The best thing a mother can do her child is to teach him/her to converse and communicate well and to look at each other in the eye when they speak. Like it or not, we listen more to our mothers than fathers. We develop attentiveness through their loving touch and empathy in listening to our needs.

2) Less dependence on Technology everyday and more time dedicated to the reading of books. Pictures and sounds along with games can be good. But more often than not, these high-tech gadgets can have adverse affects on attention span. A child may seem to pick things fast through smart technologies but try talking to him/her at without those tools. You will see that he/she will find it hard to follow what you are saying. Alternatively, try recalling three of your best friends’ phone numbers to know what is happening to you and your child who are now dependent on technology.

3) Turn the Home into a Library. Invest lots on books and less on decorative items as well as unnecessary entertainment . The child will learn to see the books as staple for themselves and books as their companions in times of loneliness. They will start by browsing pages then slowly reading through them until the books and sitting for extended lengths of time become part of their habit. A child who reads will naturally be attentive. A child who loves books will become Great someday.

[stay tune to Part 2]

Golongan Karut Marut, Golongan Adat Songsang

Ada golongan di antara kita yang masih mempercayai karut marut walaupun itu adalah kepercayaan Melayu beribu tahun yang lalu sebelum kedatangan Islam. Yang hanya adalah Jinn dan Syaitan, keduanya ciptaan Allah yang boleh ditundukkan dengan ayat suci Al-Quran. Takut hantu dan sebagainya harus dilenyapkan dan Tauhid diperkuatkan.

Adat menjadi hambatan jika tidak selari dengan Islam. Kita lihat ramai golongan Adat yang ingin mengembalikan budaya yang berunsur sesat dan yang jauh dari Ruh Islami dan mesej Quran dan Sunnah. Ini juga harus diislahkan supaya Umat Melayu Islam dapat Maju dengan Iktikad yang Murni.

A Long yet Insightful Message sent to me by a Malay based in the Middle East

Salaam Akhi. Alhamdulillah, I’m glad you’re being honest enough to share your thoughts in a candid manner which I’m not surprised may not be palatable to the community or even our leaders.

Well, we need this sort of wake-up call given the pace of transformations S’pore has been going through over the years.

You call this tsunami & I can’t disagree more as I would say that I’m fortunate to feel the pulse of change.

Therein lies my concern that after more than 10 years & following the trend though away from Home, I could sense the culture of patronizing our Malays still prevalent & lack of a ‘revolutionary change’ to overcome the institutional & personality constraints.

What I mean is that yes we don’t deny the community is making progress but not in leaps & bounds & the various institutional & personality stakeholders are comfortable with this.

It seems nobody wants to rock the boat & you aptly refers to our people at the bottom of the cabin. I’ve shared same apology that the S’pore Inc ship is moving forward but need capable crews.

If our Malays don’t fit the bill, they’ll find others to replace us. It’s happening already.

This moves me to your critical part of the discussion on the White Paper as there’s much thoughts which must be given by our community leaders & stakeholders cos of bigger ramifications to the future of our community.

If this White Paper is radical to S’poreans, then our community needs radical programmes to ride this wave of change.

Of course, you’re right Education, education, education is important for our community. I kind of like this phrase cos in real estate, we always say location, location & location is premium.

To me what’s also important is the connectivity & opening doors of opportunities both for academic advancement & employment.

This is world of who knows who & not just know what. People move up the ladder cos they know someone inside. Between 2 equally-qualified candidates, the person with connectivity will get the job or scholarship.

Yes we have more graduates now but are they getting into good jobs? It’s all about connectivity.

We need to have connectivity to open doors for our graduates & skilled professionals both for employment in Sg & overseas. Yes our Malays must be prepared to work overseas.

It is Fardhu Kifayah as it is also our obligation to share & benefit others. We need more of our Malays to embrace these Islamic values to plug & ride on this global tsunami.

Wallahu’alam

There is nothing more harmful …

“There is nothing more harmful to the branches of knowledge and its students than those who enter themselves into it and they are not suited for it nor are they experts (in those branches). They are ignorant and yet they think they have knowledge, they cause corruption whilst thinking they are correcting the affairs.” – Ibn Hazm